Archive for September, 2009

Man Arrested For Trying To Take Back Abducted Children

Wednesday, September 30th, 2009

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Chris Savoie was arrested in Japan after taking his children back from his ex-wife, Noriko Savoie, who illegally abducted them. He attempted to enter the U.S. constable, but Japanese police blocked him and eventually arrested him.

A while ago in Tennessee, Chris was given full-custody in the courts after his wife fled to Japan with her children illegally. Tennessee authorities have also issued a warrant for Noriko’s arrest. Unfortunately, these legal decisions matter little to Japanese authorities, who almost always awarded custody to mothers and do not recognize U.S. family court orders.

Chris’s current wife, Amy, has been informed that he will be formally charged with a crime, but was not told about what the specific charges are.

His story has highlighted one of the largest problems with family law, the enforcement of court rulings. It also underscores the need for greater cooperation between foreign countries in matters of family law. San Francisco family attorneys are faced with these issues on a regular basis. In fact, given our city’s number of non-natives, Bay Area residents have to deal with the issue much more than people living in other areas. If you are worried your ex may abduct your children, call Randall Richmond immediately.

To read more about Chris and his tragic tale, read the article on CBS News.

Fortieth Aniversary of No-Fault Divorces

Wednesday, September 23rd, 2009

yourdonThis month marks the fortieth anniversary of a revolutionary change in our country. Although its significance is often overlooked, California’s no-fault divorce law has made a major impact on the society we live in.

On September 4, 1969, Governor Ronald Reagan signed into effect the country’s first law permitting divorces on the grounds of irreconcilable differences. The change was drastic. Prior to the no-fault law, a couple would need to prove fault on one or both of the parties in order to receive a divorce. Many husbands and wives would turn to a private detective to help uncover evidence of adultery, abandonment or abuse -the only three legal reasons for a divorce proceeding.

Many couples who mutually agreed on the need for a divorce would have to fake one of the three reasons in order to get the court to agree to their legal separation. Attorneys and judges were bogged down with false accusations and excruciating arguments between couples. In many cases, divorces were refused, regardless of how unhappy one or both of the partners was.

The change has made a world of difference for spouses suffering in unhappy marriages and for their San Francisco divorce attorneys, who no longer have to gather evidence to help ease the pain of a bad marriage. This is one anniversary that has affected the lives of millions of Americans and should be remembered for the drastic change it brought to our country.

To read more about the effect of this law, view the article in Mars Venus Living. Image Via Ed Yourdon [Flickr]

Ballot Initiative Opts to Ban Divorce

Wednesday, September 16th, 2009

kashmirWhen the gay marriage ban of Proposition 8 was passed in 2007, many proponents of the bill claimed to not have a problem with gay people, but with the protection of traditional marriages. As a response to these arguments, Sacramento satirist John Marcotte is pushing a tongue-in-cheek ballot initiative to ban divorce. Marcotte’s proposition urges traditional marriage advocates to practice what they preach:

“It’s actually what I think is a logical extension of Prop 8, which was the California Marriage Protection Act. (My initiative) would protect traditional marriages by banning divorce,” he explained.

Marcotte’s measure needs to be formally approved by the California Attorney General before a growing army of volunteers rallies to sign the petition. News about the proposed measure spread so fast that the website for the proposition, RescueMarriage.org, crashed multiple times over the weekend due to the traffic surge it received.

While some people have shown concern that the proposal may actually gain enough support to be placed on the ballot, San Francisco divorce attorneys have been reminding those concerned that even if the initiative was voted in, the California Supreme Court would not let it stand.

For more information, please read the full article on ABC News 10. Image via Kashmir [Flickr]

Seperate Beds Can Help Marriages

Wednesday, September 9th, 2009

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Most married couples prefer to share the same bed, but this may actually be detrimental to both their health and relationships. Sleep researcher Dr. Neil Stanley has come across evidence that separate beds ensure each person receives a good night’s rest, which may help prevent stroke, heart disease and divorce. He also claims that sharing a bed may increase the risk of depression and suicidal behavior.

“You [have] this person who makes noise, punches, kicks and gets up to go to the loo in the middle of the night, is it any wonder you are not getting a good night’s sleep?” says Dr. Stanley.

Stanley’s studies have shown that when one partner tosses in his or her sleep, there is a 50% chance their partner will roll over as well. This movement reduces the quality of sleep.

One of the major factors that may prevent couples from getting separate beds may be the issue of presenting the idea to your spouse. Most San Francisco divorce attorneys will tell you this is a small price to pay when considering something that may help your marriage last longer.

Dr. Stanley advises couples who enjoy cuddling to enjoy the cuddling in the same bed and then simply move to a separate bed when the time comes to go to sleep. He reminds couples, “Intimacy is important for emotional health. But good sleep is important for physical, emotional and mental health.”

To read more about this finding, please read the article in NY Daily News. Image Via Rocksee [Flickr]

Marriage and Divorce Affect Your Health

Wednesday, September 2nd, 2009

merfamStudies in the past have shown that marriage may improve your health, and now a recent study shows that divorce may actually harm your health. Researchers examined the health records of more than 9000 adults between the ages of 51 and 61 and discovered that those who have gone through divorces or been widowed have 20% more chronic health problems than those who have not. The damage to health never seems to improve, even after remarriage.

Experts believe the reason for these health differences come down to depression, anxiety and other psychological issues that can greatly affect your health.

Researchers do point out that trying to avoid a divorce solely for health reasons may be a bad move though. Realistically, if you are greatly unhappy in your marriage, prolonging a divorce may still cause you great depression and anxiety. In these cases, you will still likely suffer the negative health effects.

“I would argue that if you can’t fix a marriage you’re better off out of it,” said Janice Kiecolt-Glaser, an Ohio State scientist who is an author of much of the research. “With a divorce you’re disrupting your life, but a long-term acrimonious marriage also is very bad.”

San Francisco divorce attorneys often recommend anyone considering a divorce go through mediation, the least aggressive form of divorce, and always speak with a doctor and psychologist as well. It is also recommended to continue eating right, exercising and to learn how to exercise proper stress management techniques while going through the divorce process.

To learn more about this ground breaking study, read the article in the Herald Tribune. Image Via merfam [Flickr]