Archive for the ‘Family Law News’ Category

Seperate Beds Can Help Marriages

Wednesday, September 9th, 2009

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Most married couples prefer to share the same bed, but this may actually be detrimental to both their health and relationships. Sleep researcher Dr. Neil Stanley has come across evidence that separate beds ensure each person receives a good night’s rest, which may help prevent stroke, heart disease and divorce. He also claims that sharing a bed may increase the risk of depression and suicidal behavior.

“You [have] this person who makes noise, punches, kicks and gets up to go to the loo in the middle of the night, is it any wonder you are not getting a good night’s sleep?” says Dr. Stanley.

Stanley’s studies have shown that when one partner tosses in his or her sleep, there is a 50% chance their partner will roll over as well. This movement reduces the quality of sleep.

One of the major factors that may prevent couples from getting separate beds may be the issue of presenting the idea to your spouse. Most San Francisco divorce attorneys will tell you this is a small price to pay when considering something that may help your marriage last longer.

Dr. Stanley advises couples who enjoy cuddling to enjoy the cuddling in the same bed and then simply move to a separate bed when the time comes to go to sleep. He reminds couples, “Intimacy is important for emotional health. But good sleep is important for physical, emotional and mental health.”

To read more about this finding, please read the article in NY Daily News. Image Via Rocksee [Flickr]

Marriage and Divorce Affect Your Health

Wednesday, September 2nd, 2009

merfamStudies in the past have shown that marriage may improve your health, and now a recent study shows that divorce may actually harm your health. Researchers examined the health records of more than 9000 adults between the ages of 51 and 61 and discovered that those who have gone through divorces or been widowed have 20% more chronic health problems than those who have not. The damage to health never seems to improve, even after remarriage.

Experts believe the reason for these health differences come down to depression, anxiety and other psychological issues that can greatly affect your health.

Researchers do point out that trying to avoid a divorce solely for health reasons may be a bad move though. Realistically, if you are greatly unhappy in your marriage, prolonging a divorce may still cause you great depression and anxiety. In these cases, you will still likely suffer the negative health effects.

“I would argue that if you can’t fix a marriage you’re better off out of it,” said Janice Kiecolt-Glaser, an Ohio State scientist who is an author of much of the research. “With a divorce you’re disrupting your life, but a long-term acrimonious marriage also is very bad.”

San Francisco divorce attorneys often recommend anyone considering a divorce go through mediation, the least aggressive form of divorce, and always speak with a doctor and psychologist as well. It is also recommended to continue eating right, exercising and to learn how to exercise proper stress management techniques while going through the divorce process.

To learn more about this ground breaking study, read the article in the Herald Tribune. Image Via merfam [Flickr]